Getting "stood up."

I hate getting "stood up."

I've got this friend who appears in and out of my life randomly. She and I met through one of those dating web sites and while I'm not sure there's ever any romantic future for us, we've established a friendship.

But lately, she's been driving me a bit nuts with her lack of ability to follow through. We made plans a Saturday or so ago to meet and watch a certain college football game. We exchanged phone calls throughout the day, figuring out where the game was on and what our options were. Finally, sensing a lack of wanting to commit and feeling like I should be the "man" and take the lead, I said, "Why don't we meet here and watch the game?"

She then said she wasn't sure but would call me around game-time. The place was near my house and she said that if she got too inebriated she would "crash at my place." At this point, the guy radar goes off and wonders--what does this mean? Do I get the guest-room ready? Or should I change the sheets on my bed and make sure I've got plenty of, well, you know?

So, I'm confused by this...but she hangs up quickly after this so I have no way to figure out what her intentions are...or if I've just failed some test she's put out there.

So, game time rolls around...no call. I head to the piont we said we'd meet and, no call.

And no call at all during the game..and no update on where she is/was until the Tuesday after the alleged time to meet-up. She decided to stay with some family to watch the game. Which is fine and all, but honestly would it have taken two seconds to call me and tell me.

Yes, I realize that as I write that, I totally sound like the woman here--why won't he call?!?

Anyway, I'm a forgiving guy and at this point have pretty much written off the whole thing as ever being more than a friendship. Honestly, when you're with someone and every five minutes ends with the statement "I can't believe you've never done that" (most of these events involving getting wildly drunk), you sort of see the writing on the wall.

So, she sends me another e-mail late in the week and we disucss various things in our lives. I then got an e-mail Saturday asking me about another college football game. And the promise of, oh I'll call before kick-off and we can chat.

And I'm still waiting for the call...

Why am I not shocked?

But if they're not active, what's the point?

Driving around town, a certain dating web site was running ads for their service. I won't name the dating site, but it rhymes with Lupid.com.

Their tag line was something like--sometime love needs a little help. And that the site had lots of singles out there just like me who were looking for that special someone.

So, I decided that since I haven't had a date in a while and I felt like some kind of intervention of this kind was needed, I'd check the site out.

Logged on, looked around and found...well, that within a good radius of my current location there are quite a large number of single women...none of whom who have been active or on-line in months. I could see if it'd been a day or two or up to a week, but it seems the lowest number I found was something like three weeks.

Needless to say, I didn't plunk down my credit card number to sign up. Call me picky, but I'd like to actually find a woman within 100 miles of my current location.

And maybe that's why I'm single...I'm so darn picky.