Something I ponder

One of the features of the pay personals site is the ability to see who has viewed your profile. I find this interesting for a couple of reasons.

One is that if I send out a response to someone and then see they've viewed my profile but I never hear back, I can figure that means they're not interested. Which is fine, I guess, but would it kill you to tell me you're not interested? Said paid site offers you the thanks but no thanks option to click on.

The second is I find it fascinating to see who has viewed you. Who does the complicated system of matching think you match and did they click on you? Of course, you could slowly go crazy wondering--well, why didn't she write? What was the thing I said in my profile that made her turn away or not even send a wink or a short message my way?

I was talking to a person I'd met on the pay site and they asked me: "So, having any luck? I seem to get a lot of strange responses."

I think we all get them. And that may be part of the problem. I seem to get an average of one response per week that basically reads the same "You seem like a nice guy. I am looking for a nice man but I live far away. Go to my profile and drop me a line if interested." Nine times out of ten, by the time I get to the message, this person has been taken down. Probably because it's the same scam artist trying to get you to their mail order mate site or something like that.

Which I hate that. It ruins it for those of us out there legitimately trying to make some kind of connection with an other person, beyond separating them from their money.